Mid Life Crisis in our Early 30s

So my husband and I have really been struggling for the past ooooo 16 months with our current situation.
Right before the economy took a dive and we had our third baby. . .my husband got a huge promotion. it was great. celebration time. . .we were moving from this humidity filled no fence, sidewalks, country living life to Denver, Colorado. We were on top of the world. After we had baby we went house hunting. . .found a house. Bought a house. told everyone. Put our house on
the market. etc. etc. etc. Loads of traveling, leaving our kids, traveling with a newborn.
Then the economy went down down down. So first to go was the move. It was placed on "hold". That was fine we got out escrow with our new house took the old house off the market. . .okay. well at least he still had a great job! Right. . .right?
No about a month later they "decided" his new job was no longer needed. Explosion. Thankfully
he was able to shift right back to his old position. So we had a baby, hubby got a promotion, bought a new home, lost our new home, lost his promotion. . . I know we were lucky that he still had a job. . .but fast forward a year later.
We are still in our house. He still has his original job and things are starting to look bleak in some ways.
So do we just "settle." Honestly we do have a great situation. . .but do we have a great situation? How would we know. . .it seems fine. . .but then again what if its not? We have great neighbors. Great schools. Interesting people in the community. But we just don't know if it us. We moved from Monterey Bay area straight to Kansas City. . .I mean Monterey is great if you have money. but we didn't. So kansas city seemed great! now have we gotten snotty or should we look for more? So you see this is our midlife crisis. . .